Romance

You Deserve Each Other

Sarah Hogle

Romance
PaperbackEnglishFirst published 2020Putnam

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Expect a Romance reading experience shaped by Enemies to Lovers, Marriage in Trouble, and Rom-Com. It is best approached for its reading feel and fit rather than for advance knowledge of later-book outcomes.

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The enemies list keeps one seat for the couple who are already together, and You Deserve Each Other owns it outright. Sarah Hogle's debut runs the trope's rarest configuration — enemies-to-lovers between two people who are engaged to each other — and the desk shelves it as the canon's funniest and most quietly serious entry about what happens after the happily-ever-after calcifies: a romance novel that begins where most of them end, with the wedding paid for, the love asleep, and both parties too proud and too broke to be the one who cancels.

Naomi Westfield and Nicholas Rose have three months until the wedding and one shared secret apiece. Neither wants to go through with it. The catch is financial and beautifully petty, since whoever calls it off eats the non-refundable costs, so instead of an honest conversation, they open a cold war. The campaign that follows is the book's glory: passive-aggression escalating into open sabotage, ugly sweaters deployed as weapons, in-laws weaponised, a haunted-house shift worked out of pure spite, each combatant trying to annoy the other into pulling the trigger first. And then the machinery Hogle is actually building becomes visible. Somewhere in the war, performing their worst selves at each other, Naomi and Nicholas start being honest for the first time in years, and the pranks curdle into something alarmingly like flirting, and the desk watched two people fall for each other inside a relationship everyone including them had declared dead.

What the desk admires is the diagnosis underneath the comedy. The book is precise about how the engagement died (not betrayal but management, two people editing themselves smaller to be marriageable, his mother's regime, her swallowed opinions), and the war works because it is the first unedited thing either has done in the relationship. The re-courtship, conducted in bad gifts and worse behaviour, is a genuine argument that the person you can be horrible with is the one you can be real with.

Honest notices: readers who need a likeable opening will find two porcupines; stay through the turn. The mother-in-law plot resolves with satisfying firmness. Heat is warm, late, and hard-won. Content notes are light.

Who is this for? Long-relationship veterans, enemies readers bored of strangers, and anyone who has ever loved someone and also hidden their phone charger out of spite. The desk recommends it as maintenance reading, and means that sincerely — marriages have been serviced by less, and several readers report administering it to spouses with results. Hogle's later books keep the acid-then-sweet signature. Start where the war did.

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contemporary

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Marriage in Trouble Enemies to Lovers Rom Com

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enemies to lovers, engaged couple

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